Touch & Hugs: Why Some Autistic People Like Them

Although there’s a common stereotype that autistic people dislike physical affection, that isn’t always true. Sensory experiences vary greatly from person to person.

For some autistic individuals:

Deep pressure input feels calming. Firm hugs, weighted blankets, or tight squeezes can provide deep pressure stimulation, which helps regulate the nervous system. This type of input can reduce anxiety and create a feeling of safety. Predictable touch is easier to process. A hug from a trusted person, especially when expected, may feel grounding rather than overwhelming. It helps with emotional regulation. Deep pressure can lower heart rate and stress levels, making hugs comforting during moments of overstimulation.

Why Others May Not Like Hugs

On the other hand, some autistic people may find hugs uncomfortable or even painful because:

Light or unexpected touch can feel overwhelming. Their nervous system may interpret physical contact as too intense. They may need more personal space to feel regulated.

The Key: Consent & Individual Differences

Autism is a spectrum. One person may crave tight squeezes; another may avoid physical contact entirely. The most important factor is consent and communication—asking before hugging and respecting boundaries.