For someone like me most social situations are not always ideal. Having what is seen to be a  normal interaction can often send a neurodiverse person into a tizzy. For instance a lot of neurodiverse people find the need to mask when interacting with their peers. What this means is that they put aside their true personality and make it seem as if they were feeling or doing something they would not do. In most instances we do this so we can have some form of acceptance in our lives. As someone who is seen as different due to the way their brain is wired. It is completely unethical for someone to make a surface level judgement about someone who is different. 

Deep down it is a true challenge to make a true authentic connection with the world around us. Often times we are thrown around and treated as if we were an object. This should never be the case socially, medically or professionally. As someone who is neurodiverse I am more than happy to talk about what it is like, but not a lot of people are actually willing to listen and learn how to work with me (us). A small amount of understanding can go a long way in a world full of “fill in the blank judgements”. What I mean by fill in the blank is that if i were to do something that may seem off, I am not  asked as to why, instead a judgement is made without a true understanding. Most people like me want to be understood instead of judged. Often times these judgements are made on a single interaction. This is often times why people like me do not have a good sized friend groups. Whether it was the way we had a tone and did not realize it. Sometimes people walk away when we shut down or have a day where processing things verbally are challenging.  

People like me do care about the interactions we have with others. I will admit that sometimes our brains start to shut down when too much interaction has occurred in a small amount of time. When we are given a lot of information at one time, half of the information goes into overload and a very small amount is actually processed. Our brains are wired in a way that if too much happens it often is remembered as a blur. This can cause a delayed verbal response when having a conversation. When silent we are trying to figure out what the other person said then trying to sort through the responses that seem more relatable than others.  

The best way to explain this process is to have you imagine your holding a box, inside is filled full with papers. Each paper has a response from a previous interaction you have had in the past. Then you have to sort through and find the paper with the response that best matches the situation/ conversation you are currently in. This right here is the verbal process for someone who is neurodivergent.